18 Sep Is sex after episiotomy healthy and enjoyable?
Young couples are so eager to have sex after the baby is born, that they forget to weigh certain factors that might affect the fun of intercourse. They tend to overlook the condition of the mother’s physique post delivery. Not all women are the same and not all of them boast of the same mental and physical toughness. While some of them find postpartum intercourse perfect fine a few weeks after childbirth, some of them prefer to wait for some months before they resume their natural sexual activities. There are many factors involved post childbirth, and new mothers should think about them before going in for sex.
They include changes in the body, postpartum issues, and fatigue. If you are breastfeeding your baby, your vagina might be tender and dry, hence it is better to take it easy when opting in for lovemaking after pregnancy. You can use vaginal gels and lubricating creams to reduce the friction and burning sensation caused by vaginal dryness. Gentle cuddling by the males and passionate kissing helps too. There are special positions of lovemaking that are suitable for those who want to go in for sex after pregnancy.
There are many illustrated books and guides that can guide you with this. Do not be sentimental… if you feel that a particular position is causing you discomfort, convey that to your partner. While opting in for resuming sex after birth, keep your mind focused on the act. Do not let it stray on other issues like the laundry, diapers, and other chores. This will spoil that special moment that you are enjoying after months of isolation. If you are experiencing pain while having sex, you should consult the gynecologist. In general cases, a mild dose of estrogen cream applied to the vagina works wonders.
After several normal deliveries, the muscles of the vaginal walls tend to get toned down and this might reduce the pleasure of sex after childbirth. This might decrease the pleasure factor of your partner. For the short term, you can pull your legs one over the other… like a scissor. This will help to tighten the muscles of the vagina. You can also try to tighten the muscles of your pelvic region to increase sexual pleasure. Remember the actions you go through when you want to stop passing urine, this action tightens the muscles of your pelvic region.
At the onset, tighten these muscles for 5 seconds each time for four to five times in a row and gradually increase the time to 10 seconds. There are different types of exercises, like Kegel exercises, that will assist you to tighten your pelvic muscles. Try to enjoy sex after childbirth only if both your mind and body enjoys it. If you try to perform post pregnancy sex without enjoying it both physically and mentally, you are cheating both yourself and your partner. If you feel that there are any complications, do not hesitate to consult the doctor.